Be Strong

Below is a msn conversation with my friend, name & certain content have been edited to protect my friend's identity.

YaN says:
hey gal! how was your bday??

Friend says:
hmmm.... work then went hospital see mama

YaN says:
is your mum ok?

Friend says:
just passed away

YaN says:
you need to tok?

Friend says:
dont worry.... I am still okayz..I have got too many things to settle...stress

YaN says:
i understand, u need help juz give me a call k? can let me noe where's the wake?

Friend says:
its over my dear...she passed away one day after my birthday

YaN says:
im sorrie gal... im really really sorrie

Friend says:
its alright

YaN says:
I guess there's nothing much i can say

Friend says:
I wanted to tell you... but I am afraid you will be more sad then me becoz you are so emotional...dont want you to be sad

YaN says:
i am Sad... my heart aches when you told me

Friend says:
I know this will happen

YaN says:
but i really wanna make sure you are ok

Friend says:
I dont want you to be sad... but since you ask I dont wanna lie to you too

YaN says:
coz i noe how it feels. dun lie to me gal..we are friends

Friend says:
thats why I told you the truth...

YaN says:
we should share all the emotional burden

Friend says:
dont be sad k... I am really all right.. I still got a sis to look after

YaN says:
salute to you gal...takes my hat off you

Friend says:
nah... no worries... I have to make sure everything goes properly. when its over... I will tell you everything

YaN says:
sure... feel free to drop me a call anitime.. dun stress urself too much k? dun suppress your emotions..you are a human being afterall

Friend says:
yes my dear gal...dont cry hor...

YaN says:
since you r so strong...i wanna be as strong as you coz there's alwaz sunshine after rain

Friend says:
hahah... yupzyupzyup!! sun shine!!

YaN says:

:)

I've never met anyone as strong as my friend. If someone can face the grief of losing someone so dear with such bravery, why do we often get upset over trivial matters? Suddenly all the problems in my mind become so minor, so unimportant, so worthless to be upset over.

To my friend: I love you. I really do and I feel how you feel. I admire your courage to walk through this pain but bear in mind, you're never alone. We are with you, your family is with you and your mum is watching over you from up above.

To my other friends: Trust me, the pain of the death of someone you love is worse than anything. Cherish the people around you from this very minute and since my friend can handle the worst agony on earth, I'm sure you can have the courage to set yourself free too, no matter what problems you face.

A lesson learnt.